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Bullying,
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What To Do, What Not To Do And Essential Links Unfortunately bullying
is very common in schools and in places of work everywhere. Most people
think of bullying as physical - hitting, punching, kicking, and stealing;
but bullying is anything that makes a person do something they do not
want to do, name calling etc. The main problem is that too many people
and too many schools stand by and let it happen. You as a pupil have
certain rights, your school must do certain things to protect you from
bullying. The following information came from the DFEE (Department for
Education and Employment) - these guys are responsible for writing the
laws that tell teachers and schools how to work. Their website is at
http://www.dfee.gov.uk/: "Each school should have a clear school behaviour
policy. It should make clear the boundaries of what is acceptable, the
hierarchy of sanctions, arrangements for their consistent and fair application,
and a linked system of rewards for good behaviour. It should promote
respect for others, intolerance of bullying and harassment, the importance
of self-discipline and the difference between 'right' and 'wrong'."
Unfortunately we cannot guarantee you will never be bullied. There are
some things that you can do however, that will make you less likely
to be bullied: What to do: Remember: You don't deserve to be bullied,
it's the bullies' problem! Talk about it to someone who will listen
Ignore the bullies themselves completely - The best thing to bullies
about bullying people is seeing that they are hurting the victim. That's
what gives them the kick. Simply learn to ignore them. If you shut them
out and carry on, they will eventually get bored of not getting a response,
and leave you alone. It's a tried and tested method- proved by my experience!
Try it, it really works posted by Jonathon - 26/02/00 7:45 pm Tell a
teacher you trust Stick to facts and bring a witness Defend yourself
only if necessary Stay in a group Be firm, if they pressure you shout
"NO"; it'll get attention What not to do: DO NOT IGNORE THE BULLYING
- MAKE A NOISE ABOUT IT Don't confront the bully Don't fight back except
to defend yourself - it only makes it worse believe me! Don't get in
a slanging match If you are scared or intimidated get away and get help
Don't fight to keep your stuff - you are more important! Other Advice:
Stand up for yourself - do not become a doormat - if someone teases
you do not stand for it; tell your teacher, friends or anyone. It does
help. Speak to other people who have been bullied, they will know what
to do. If your teachers do not listen or take action make a row - you
have a right - the links go to pages that highlight some of those rights.
Don't let anyone fobb you off with the idea that your problems are not
as significant as anyone elses! Cos they are far from it - everyone
counts! Do not be afraid to show your individuality. If people around
you at the moment don't like it, people around the corner will! Bullies
(although it doesn't seem like it) are only confident from the outside.
I personally don't buy that crap about them already being scarred and
having to take it out on others - They are cowards! Related Sites pupiline.net
is NOT offering "professional" advice - our advice and comments are
from those of us who have had first hand experience in these things.
If you feel your problem is really bad, and needs "professional" help
then please use the links below: http://www.young-voice.org/ Red Balloon
Learner Centre - telephone: (cambridge, uk) 01223 357714 http://www.childline.co.uk/
or 0800 1111 The premier, professional advice guys http://www.kidscape.net/
Another hub for professional bullying advice! http://www.successunlimited.co.uk/
An excellent if complicated site containing loads of info on bullying.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/education/bully/ The BBC's bullying site. oli
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